Hey love, welcome back to Lux Unfiltered.
Today’s episode is about something I’ve honestly had a really weird, tangled-up relationship with — and maybe you have too: intuition.
Not the buzzword version.
Not the “spiritual girlboss” version.
I mean the real experience of what it’s like when you’re trying to hear your own inner voice… but you don’t know if it’s intuition, trauma, ADHD impulsivity, people-pleasing, or just pure chaos in there.
Because if you grew up getting gaslit — by family, friends, society, or even just your own brain chemistry — it’s really hard to tell which voice inside you is the one you’re supposed to listen to.
And when people say “just trust yourself,”
I don’t know about you, but it used to piss me off.
Like — trust what, exactly?
The part of me that’s been wrong before?
The part of me that second-guesses everything?
The part of me that talks myself out of even having needs?
Yeah.
It’s messy.
But also… it’s fixable.
And today, we’re going to talk about how to start actually hearing yourself again.
First things first:
I do believe that the universe provides.
I do believe that there’s something bigger than me — whatever you wanna call it — that’s been throwing me rope when I’m drowning and tiny little stepping stones when I thought there was no way forward.
But if I’m honest?
I’ve spent a huge chunk of my life believing that I wasn’t deserving of those things.
That somehow, there was this giant cosmic mix-up — like the good things I got were accidents, and eventually the universe would realise it gave the wrong address and come take them back.
And because of that?
Even when my intuition was speaking to me…
I didn’t trust it.
I thought:
“No, this is probably wrong. You’re too emotional. You’re being dramatic. You’re making it up.”
Sound familiar?
So if you’re here thinking,
“I want to listen to myself… but I literally don’t know what to listen for”
— you’re not broken.
You’re just disconnected.
And that disconnection? It’s not your fault.
It’s survival.
It’s what you learned to do when listening to yourself wasn’t safe.
But now, it is safe.
Or at least, safer.
And rebuilding that trust doesn’t have to be some huge, terrifying leap.
It actually needs to start smaller than you think.
Let’s talk about what intuition actually feels like.
And I promise — I’m not gonna throw any “high vibrational frequency” nonsense at you.
This is how intuition usually shows up:
• It’s fast.
It’s the first voice, before the overthinking layers pile on top.
You’ll have a gut nudge, a flicker of knowing — and then about five seconds later your logical brain starts screaming, “WAIT, BUT WHAT IF—” and buries it.
• It’s physical.
Intuition doesn’t always come in words.
It comes through your body.
Maybe your stomach flips.
Maybe your chest feels lighter.
Maybe your shoulders relax a tiny bit — or tense up.
• It’s quiet.
It’s not a dramatic, booming YES or NO most of the time.
It’s more like… a soft shift.
A door opening in your chest, or gently closing.
Almost boring, honestly.
Which is why it’s so easy to miss if you’re expecting fireworks.
When I first started trying to reconnect to mine, I realised something:
I was trying way too hard.
I was treating intuition like an exam.
Like there was a right answer, and if I didn’t pick it, I was gonna fail the universe and fail my whole life.
But intuition doesn’t work like that.
It’s less like solving a puzzle… and more like following a trail of little clues.
You don’t need to “get it right.”
You just need to notice where you feel pulled — and be willing to trust that pull for the length of one tiny step.
So let’s break this down into actual things you can do.
Because hearing “just trust yourself” without a plan is about as useful as hearing “just calm down” when you’re mid-panic attack.
Step one: Give your intuition a playground.
You’re not allowed to start with life-changing decisions.
You’re starting with the smallest shit possible.
• Which mug do you want to drink from?
• What song do you want to hear next?
• Which path feels better to walk today?
And here’s the key:
Don’t overthink it.
Don’t weigh pros and cons.
Don’t worry about what you should pick.
Just follow the very first pull you feel, however small.
That’s intuition practice.
That’s reps in the gym.
Step two: Build your body compass.
This one changed everything for me.
Sit quietly for two minutes.
Think about a YES moment — something that felt like a genuine full-body yes in your life.
Could be something tiny.
Like a day you didn’t want to end, or a hug that felt perfect.
Notice where that feeling lives in your body.
Warmth? Opening? Lightness? A deep breath?
Now think about a NO moment — a time you ignored yourself and regretted it.
What happens in your body when you remember it?
Tightening? Heaviness? Shallow breathing? Nausea?
This is your map.
Your yeses and nos will almost always feel like this.
Next time you’re stuck on a decision — even something dumb like what socks to wear — check your body.
Is it giving you a YES signal or a NO signal?
Step three: Practice receiving, not forcing.
Another mistake I made early on?
Treating intuition like something I had to chase down.
Like if I just journaled hard enough, or meditated hard enough, I’d wring an answer out of the universe.
But intuition doesn’t respond to pressure.
It’s like trying to catch a butterfly by chasing it with a net — you’ll just scare it off.
Instead, try asking:
“Universe, show me what I need to know about this.”
And then… get on with your life.
Wait.
Notice.
Don’t try to MAKE signs happen.
Just keep your eyes open.
Sometimes a lyric will hit you sideways.
Sometimes a random conversation will drop the answer in your lap.
Sometimes you’ll just suddenly know — and it won’t make logical sense yet, but it will feel right.
That’s the vibe.
Step four: Use the two-pen method.
This one’s for my fellow AuDHD brains that need a system to trick themselves into being free.
Grab two pens:
• First pen: write down the thing you’re stuck on.
• Second pen (different colour): answer it without lifting the pen off the page. No edits. No corrections. No thinking.
You’ll be amazed at what spills out when you don’t give yourself time to filter it.
Sometimes the answer’s messy.
Sometimes it doesn’t make immediate sense.
But often?
It’s the clearest voice you have.
And listen — real talk:
You’re gonna get it “wrong” sometimes.
You’re gonna follow a gut feeling and it won’t work out the way you hoped.
You’re gonna misread a nudge and end up in a situation you didn’t plan for.
That doesn’t mean you failed.
That means you’re learning your own language.
It’s like learning to dance with someone — you’re gonna step on each other’s toes at first.
But every time you try, you get a little more fluent.
You trust yourself a little more.
And that’s the real win.
Not perfection.
Just connection.
If you take anything away from this, I hope it’s this:
Your intuition never left you.
It’s not broken.
It’s not hiding.
It’s not punishing you.
It’s just been waiting.
Waiting for you to come back and sit with it for long enough to hear it whisper again.
You’re allowed to be messy.
You’re allowed to be clumsy.
You’re allowed to rebuild at your own pace.
And you’re allowed to want guidance without feeling like you’re doing life wrong just because you need help finding your own voice again.
Alright, love — that’s what I have for you today.
If you try any of these practices — even just one — DM me, email me, tell me how it goes.
You’re not alone in this.
You’re building something real.
I’ll leave you with this quote that’s been sitting with me lately:
“The universe doesn’t speak English. It speaks frequency.”
And every time you choose yourself, you’re turning the dial a little closer to hearing it.
Okay.
Love you. Bye.
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